The Heart of the Matter: A Simple Guide to Discovering Gifts in Strange Wrapping Paper (book review)


I received a complementary copy of this book from Hay House for review purposes.  The opinions are completely my own based on my experience.

Heart of the Matter book coverWe are all born into this world with simple joy within, believes Dr. Darren Weissman and Cate Montana.  How we lose that joy, and how we can get that connection back is the basis of their new book: “The Heart of the Matter: A Simple Guide to Discovering Gifts in Strange Wrapping Paper”.

As we experience life “the litany of heartaches and grievances add up, all too quickly,” say the authors.  They reveal the “See Feel Hear Challenge” – a process that brings to our awareness the hurts of our past, buried in the subconscious, with the intent of healing these painful emotions.  “When we begin to understand the mind, specifically the subconscious, we learn that these symptoms are not personal in any way, but rather spiritual in every way: they are wake-up calls to alert us to evolve to our fullest potential,” they believe.

After devoting several chapters to defining the “See Feel Hear Challenge”, I liked how the authors in the concluding chapters clarified the process through a series of questions from Montana (in the role of the lay person) to Weissman (the “m.d.” expert).  In one of these exchanges Weissman writes, “I find that most people, when setting an intention, do so out of fear rather than love.  They’ve focused on getting away from something or preventing something from happening, rather than genuinely focusing on where their hearts are leading them.  Love always moves toward things;  fear always moves away.  A fear-based intention will keep a person anchored to the current situation he or she is in.”  Wise words which I will remember the next time I am setting an intention.

While I found the See Feel Hear Challenge a helpful approach to healing with many valuable insights, I feel it would be difficult for a person to work through his or her painful emotions just by reading the book.  Weissman’s and Montana’s work is a good guide for therapists in revealing a process that could be applied in sessions with clients.  I think it is too much to expect the average person to work through these emotions by himself or herself without the aide of a skilled counselor.

In the final pages of the book the authors quote Marianne Williamson – “We were born to make manifest the glory of God that exists within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone!” The Heart of the Matter is a good book in raising the reader’s awareness of what may be blocking the Spirit within, with steps to heal those blockages.

You can get “The Heart of the Matter” from these book sellers:

Hay House


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